The child's eyes lit up interest, and he gladly offers its own toy baby. Clearly, in this case turned out to change the perception and evaluation of a child of the situation. Reframing helped make sense of possessiveness in the interest of research activity of the child. In this situation, reframing was used to expand the scope of child perception of the situation, but this technique can be used to help the parent to look at the most problematic situation outside the box. Example. I was standing at the stove, cook a little longer the soup.
And now for 5-7 minutes until the completion of this grand process, my son enters the kitchen. He wants to play with me and not him nothing to do with a full pot of boiling water and other dangers inherent in the kitchen. The first thing you want to do – is to explain to him that is dangerous to be here and it would be nice if I had waited 10 minutes in the room. But then I dawns. I want my child did not approach plate. But this result can be achieved by setting himself a different task: "Make it so that the child wanted to be outside the kitchen!" Just born a few options, which in turn is realized: for In order to escape he was interested, I suggest playing catch-up, it is interesting to sit quietly in the farthest room from the kitchen – hide and seek, so he became interested in the game, in which initially there is a need for solitude – the game "Put your things." All three proposals son gladly accept. Sometimes parents are very assertive, authoritative on the issue of nomination requirements for the child. This directiveness often provokes stubborn child there is a wide choice of mood and lack of decision-making by parents.
For example, when I taught a child to the pot, I ran into stubbornness. Even if he wanted to use the bathroom, it was worth taking him up to be attributed to the pot, he began to squirm and go on strike. So he defended his right to freedom of choice. Nothing to do but he is right to give. I used the method of Erickson's influence "Imaginary choice." As soon as I felt it's time I came to her son and said: "Jaroslaw, you want to pee: a toilet, bath or in a pot?" He said some of the options for a more desirable. The trick is that in a statement to install desire has been laid and there are several alternatives, one of which selects a child himself. This is just a few steps. In the arsenal of psychologists of their weight. Psychologists themselves are willing to share them, but they are often hinders the principle of "Do not knocking on closed doors. " A lot depends on the willingness of parents to obtain information, to move towards a more competent and informed parenting. The development of the practice of constructive ban will help parents enhance their behavioral flexibility to find more creative, less pressure on the child's trust, and give him more freedom. Such prohibitions or restrictions will not only develop the child's sense of responsibility for their own choices, but also contribute to the development of his personality as a whole.